Domestic Abuse disturbingly on the rise amidst the lockdown

Domestic Abuse disturbingly on the rise amidst the lockdown

Disturbing figures show that whilst other crimes such as knife crime and burglary have gone down during lockdown, domestic violence has increased.

Domestic Abuse disturbingly on the rise amidst the lockdownAn article by the Guardian updates us on a project which has recorded more than double the average amount of domestic abuse related killings in this time.

Domestic abuse is a sad reality and exists in almost every culture, class and background and against men and women. It takes a huge amount of courage to speak out if this is something that you have been facing, and sometimes it is hard to even accept that that is exactly what is happening.

Do any of the following apply to you?

Do you change your behaviour because you are afraid of your partner’s reaction?
Is your partner jealous and possessive?
Do you feel like you are walking on egg shells?
Do you feel controlled, or isolated?

If so, you may be a victim of domestic abuse.

We have put together some useful helplines and websites for those who may be suffering in this way. And of course here at Rainbow our team of counsellors can help you to work through some of the issues related to this as well. Please don’t hesitate to contact us.

Helplines:

National Domestic Abuse Helpline, visit: www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk  0808 2000 247

Women’s Aid, visit: www.womensaid.org.uk

The Men’s Advice Line: 0808 801 0327

National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Helpline: 0800 999 5428

Relevant Source: Domestic abuse killings ‘more than double’ amid Covid-19 lockdown  | The Guardian >

The importance of fried eggs in our lives at this time

The importance of fried eggs in our lives at this time

You may well ask: why introduce a blog on a therapeutic website with food?

The importance of fried eggs in our lives at this timeWell, the fried egg is a wonderful picture of how we can begin to regain some control in our lives, when so much of our sense of personal agency and autonomy has currently been taken from us. And we all know the latter can lead to a sense of disempowerment, increased anxiety, and even depression.

So I come back to the fried egg and invite you to draw it !!

Visualise the rich, textured, tasty, nutritious yolk. This represents those aspects of our life where we have control and personal agency. Now populate that small yolk with your ideas as to what you can control.

The egg white – the albumen – represents those aspects of your life you can influence. Notice the thin spread and how it can go all over and not necessarily in the direction you want.

Finally, the plate on which the fried egg is sitting represents those areas where there is no control ….. and there are plenty of them at the moment! Now identify and populate the egg white and plate with those aspects of your life that you can influence, and those where you have no control, respectively.

It is an interesting fact that we so often focus on, and over-think, those aspects of our life where we have no control; and, ironically, the less control we feel we have, the more we do it. Thus we drain ourselves of energy, disempower ourselves and lower our mood. The trick is to focus our energies on the egg yolk , those aspects of our lives where we do have control and agency because these sustain, feed and energise us. They enable us to build our resilience in the NOW, whether we are in lock down, facing redundancy, loss, or other life challenges.

It is fascinating, the insights and empowerment a fried egg can provide! This is what coaching offers.

If you wish to explore further, please speak to Jane, our Coach. And remember – our offer to key workers in the NHS, also applies to coaching. To make an appointment with Jane, send us a message or call us on 07789 157 300.

Rainbow Counselling Services respond to COVID-19 with a new Online Counselling Service

Rainbow Counselling Services respond to COVID-19 with a new Online Counselling Service

We are still accepting new referrals and are offering sessions by telephone or video link.

Here at Rainbow Counselling we are supporting the national effort on Coronavirus; we want to enable people during these exceptional times and we will be responsible and flexible in any way we can. As a faith-based organisation we care about people and want to help those who might be suffering as a result of these strange times we are living in.

We would also like very much to support local NHS staff, who may be dealing with challenging situations alongside managing their personal anxieties about the current situation. 

To make an appointment with a Rainbow counsellor, send us a message or call us on 07789 157 300.

We are committed in continuing to daily monitor the advice given from Public Health England, the Worldwide Health Organisation and the Government on the situation.

Related link: Find out more about our Online & Telephone Counselling Service >

Rainbow Counselling are still here for you

Rainbow Counselling are still here for you

Coronavirus COVID-19Rainbow Counselling wishes to reassure all clients that we are continuing to provide our services during the COVID-19 outbreak.

We are monitoring daily the advice given from Public Health England, the World Health Organisation and the Government and adjusting our service provision accordingly.

Existing clients – your counsellor will discuss with you any alterations they may need to make to their usual service.

In these uncertain times, we are more than ever here for you. We are still accepting new referrals offering sessions by telephone or video link. For more information please call us on: 07789 157 300 or send us a message >

Clear your phone and clear your mind

Clear your phone and clear your mind

Many of us can spend up to four hours a day on our phones, whether that’s on social media, looking up or ordering something, or just passing the time of day.

Clear your mind and your phone with a digital detox and start the year focussing on being in the present and being relationship-focussed for a healthier and clearer mind.

The link below to an article, by Mozilla (Firefox), has some great tips for how to reduce the temptation to be constantly on your phone or device. Ideas include making apps grayscale so they seems less appealing, and moving essential apps only to be in your line of vision. Check it out for some great tips to get your year off to a better start. Find out more >